There are many evils in our society. The dowry system is one of them. It has become a problem today. Almost every family has a girl. So every family has to suffer sooner or later. An Indian girl is not like a western girl. She can not choose a husband for herself. Her marriage means business. In the marriage market, boys are bought and sold. The better is the boy, the higher the price is.
History of Dowry System
The history of the dowry system is old. The son has a share in the parents’ property. The daughter should also get her share. But we gave her presents at the time of her marriage through dowry we try to buy a good husband for her. We search for her good and comfortable house to live in. We went to make her life happy through dowry. But dowry has taken an ugly twin. Money plays an important part in marriage today.
Dowry should be Banned
One of the worst part of this dowry system is that if a girl brings less dowry she is harassed in her in-law’s family. Sometimes she is burnt too. Many commit suicide. Three girls in Kanpur and three in Delhi hanged themselves for this very reason. There is an average of a dowry death a day in Delhi alone. Such deaths in rural areas are never reported.
One of the worst parts of this custom is that many limiest people become corrupt to earn money to money their daughters. They take bribes, do tuitions and practice unfair means in business. Taxes are not paid on this extra income. It is unacquainted that creates inflation in the country. It is said that 50% of the back money in the North is because of dowry.
To dowry system is a great evil in society. The girl has to be married off. Every parent wishes for the happy married life of his or her daughter. But the better is the boy’s family, the higher is the dowry.
To settle the girl’s marriage is another problem. The girl’s father has to face all kinds of insults. He is asked to spend more and more. He has been saving paisa by paisa since his daughter’s birth. Yet the marriage market is higher. He may have to take loans or sell his land and house. Such are the sufferings of a girl’s parents.
Very often the girl has to suffer if the boy’s demands are not fulfilled. The girl’s father wants to save his skin. But the boy’s father likes to rob him. Sometimes the girl is beaten. Sometimes she is murdered for dowry. We have to rob out this evil. We need to reform our society. Let our young boys and girls came forward and accept the challenge. If we are not suffering today, our children will suffer.
The custom of dowry had crossed the caste barrier and has spread in the whole society. Although there is a strict law against dowry, it is not implemented in the same way as the law against child marriage is not implemented. In, 1987 goods worth crore of rupees were given as dowry by a minister of the ruling party of the bridegroom. The son of ex-minister. Both belong to princely families. If laws are ignored by ministers they are ignored by the people too.
The laws should strictly be enforced and should act as a deterrent against the practice of dowry. Any family or individual guilty of bride burning or battering should be paid in the same coin at a public gathering. Strict enforcement of laws would deter the public against the practice of the dowry system.
Rules and Laws to Ban Dowry Sysytem
NGOs and Women’s Organization should also work for the welfare of the victims of this practice. Going in for intercaste marriage would also help in discouraging the practice of dowry. We as the citizens of India, marching towards the new millennium, should also strive for the discontinuation of this evil practice.
Dowry is a black spot on the bright face of the country. But it cannot be done away by the elderly people. Only the younger generation can do it.